”Be beautiful, be yourself.” You have to accept yourself as you are. This is a very important practice. As you practice building a home in yourself, you become more and more beautiful. You have peace, warmth, and joy; you feel wonderful within yourself, and people will recognize the beauty of your flower.
HOW TO LOVE
最近はインドのオンライン瞑想キャンプを参加しています。先生が言及した作品を調べているところ、この素晴らしい名作にたどり着きました。読んでみたらすぐにハマりました。Audible版の英語ナレーションが上品の発音でステキですが、私はイラストが可愛いキンドル版英語原作を読んでいます。日本語翻訳版もあります。
The Four Elements of True Love
HOW TO LOVE
The first element of true love is maitri, loving kindness. This means being able to offer happiness. You have to be the sunshine for the other person. But you can’t offer happiness until you have it for yourself. So build a home inside. Accept yourself. Learn to love and heal yourself. Learn how to practice mindfulness in such a way that you can create moments of happiness and joy for your own nourishment. Then you have something to offer the other person.
The second element of true love is karuna, compassion. This is the capacity to understand the suffering in yourself and in the other person. If you understand your own suffering, you can help him to understand his suffering. Understanding suffering brings compassion and relief. You can transform your own suffering and help transform the suffering of the other person. We can generate this energy by practicing mindfulness.
The third element is mudita, joy. When you know how to generate joy, that nourishes you and nourishes the other person.
The fourth is upeksha, which means equanimity, inclusivesness, nondiscrimination. In a deep relationship, there’s no longer a boundary between you and the other person. You are him, you are her. Your suffering is his suffering. Your understanding of your own suffering helps her to suffer less. Suffering and happiness are no longer individual matters. What happens to him happens to you. What happens to you happens to him. There’s no longer any discrimination.
If your love is made with these four elements, your love is healing and transforming, and it has the element of holiness in it, because it’s made of mindfulness, concentration, and insight.
When an intimate relationship contains the four elements of true love, then physical intimacy, sexual intimacy, becomes something very beautiful and consolidating.
なるほど～まだまだ愛の修業が足りないかも・・・
Nene Z Oasis 